Laraine Presents Emotional Tools for Forgiveness at Asia Women’s Conference

Laraine received a great deal of positive feedback from women who attended the Asia Women’s Conference in March in Hong Kong. She spoke about Forgiveness: the Pain, the Paralysis, and the Process.

Laraine Chamberlain Presents: Forgiveness–The Pain, The Paralysis, and the Process

One part of the presentation dealt with the idea that each of us has multiple, distinct, yet interrelated areas in which we can develop self-reliance including: Physical, financial, educational, social, spiritual and emotional. Because we do not have the necessary tools, we tend to deal with emotional issues as only a byproduct of strength in another area. For instance, we tend to believe that to strengthen ourselves emotionally, we must pursue spiritual strengths. We read scripture, attend church, and pray in order to help ourselves emotionally.

While it is true there are strong “spillover” benefits of a spiritual life, it is not true that we can rely solely on those benefits for emotional strength. For some reason it is obvious that attending church does not strengthen physical muscles, nor does it take the place of good nutrition. Likewise, it is obvious that going to the gym every day does not supplant religious observance. But when it comes to building emotional strength, we hear advice such as, “Just get out and do more social things.” Or we hear, “Pray more, and read more scriptures.”

Conference attendees take notes during Laraine’s presentation

There is good reason for this kind of advice–the world is largely unaware of specific exercises to boost emotional health. Laraine and Chuck have been certified in an approach called “CJEA” or Creative Journal Expressive Arts. Among other things, CJEA is a brain-science based method of enhancing emotional awareness and strength.

When confronted with the very spiritual need to forgive someone, it is helpful to understand that forgiveness is both a spiritual AND an emotional need. Consequently, there are specific emotional exercises that can be used to help someone going through a forgiveness process. In her presentation, Laraine recalled a fairly recent experience in which missionaries for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints asked her to join with them in a discussion with someone who was considering baptism. As the discussion progressed, the woman seemed to hit an emotional roadblock and could not consider baptism until she had forgiven her husband. Laraine guided the woman through some emotional exercises that left her sobbing, but noticeably relieved and ready to continue her spiritual life.

Laraine taught a simple exercise on paper to show the women how easy, yet how powerful emotional exercises can be

When we have the right tools, we are free to go where we’ve never been before. But, as Laraine pointed out, the tools are so simple–almost too simple–and because of the “simpleness of the way,” many people don’t bother to do them, even when they know about them. By using simple spiritual and emotional tools, we can more easily forgive and continue a healthier path in life.

Chuck and Laraine Back for a Hong Kong Visit

Laraine presented at the Asia Women’s Conference in Hong Kong. Because Chuck is absolutely nuts about Hong Kong, he could not be left behind. Between sessions of the conference, Chuck and Laraine renewed friendships. It was a truly relaxing and enjoyable trip. Unfortunately, due to some technical issues, not all of their visits were captured in pictures.

No trip to Hong Kong would be complete without a visit with Diana from the tiny fishing village–Tai O Village. Here we had lunch with her and her husband, Albert, while she described the rebuilding efforts following last year’s horrible typhoon. She basically lost her home and had to rebuild it, a little higher this time.
Chuck, Albert, Diana, Laraine
Our dear friend, Annie Wong, is now Public Affairs Director for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Asia. We are excited about the job she’s doing. What a strength and wealth of experience she brings!
Some of the attendees at the Asia Women’s Conference, 2019. Theme: “In His strength we can do all things.”
How cool is that! We got to touch base again with the Filipinas in Hong Kong
Not all change is good. Here, we came across our favorite hamburger joint, “Big Bite” that used to serve Canadian cuisine. Now, it’s closed down as they replace it with something else. Chuck’s face shows the depth of his hunger for a Canadian hamburger.
The Beijing Connection. These women are all currently living in Beijing or have recently lived in Beijing. (L to R: Isabelle Berrios, Janet Steele, Leah Reid, Laraine Chamberlain, Jana Ewing, Sharae Forsyth, Robyn Bergstrom)
Former member of Hong Kong’s Public Affairs committee, Esther Lau (now Esther Yip). Esther was a sweetheart as she helped us “learn the ropes” when we came to Hong Kong as Public Affairs Specialists. She is due to deliver a baby any time now!!
Dear friend, Cora Wong (Pollard)

Mexican lunch with the Pollards in Wanchai. Great friendships are priceless!