For those who have come to us from the “Resilient Women” C4K Inc. summit, we’ve created a special gift for you. In our work to boost emotional resilience, we often use specifically designed music to help us explore the nine “families of emotions.” This piano music was created specifically for our use by McCall Erickson, a truly gifted pianist.
Improve your mental Health without going to a therapist
You already have the answers about you, deep inside you. We simply guide you through the process of self-discovery.
Your work is private and personal to just you.
From the convenience and comfort of your home, without having to leave the house and sit in traffic, this online course gives you more time to work on you.
With on-demand delivery, it's available at the time you need it.
The tools used in this course are some of the same tools your therapist might use with you. We show you how to use them.
This course is the fastest way to results
Much of what is written out there to improve your mental health actually targets other parts of you and relies on the "spillover effect" to bring results. Eating healthy, meditation, getting enough sleep, and going out with friends are all great ways to boost your mental health. However, all these are focused on your physical, spiritual, social, etc. and do not specifically target the emotional/mental part of you.
Five classes to give you an overview and background about the science and theory behind the exercises you'll do. These classes alone will give you greater insight into how your mind works and how you can make changes that are lasting.
We give you tools to work on yourself and at your own pace. Once we have walked you through the exercises step-by-step via video instruction, you can download the PDF's to repeat the exercises again and again on your own time--without the videos.
Mental health is a hot topic right now with an increasing demand on scarce resources and practitioners. There is a push to normalize therapy and engage in hard conversations, but the wide gap between "all is well" and "I need professional help" leaves the majority of us not knowing what to do. This course targets mental and emotional health from a position of overall well-being and preventative care and is beneficial even before a crisis.
2 full modules with downloadable content packs the most value for your dollar. Not only will it probably take you over a month to go through all the exercises provided, but each is available to do again and again. As you grow and your situations change, you can continue to use this resource as a help.
Chuck and Laraine Chamberlain are both certified by Dr. Lucia Capacchione in Creative Journal Expressive Arts. Having overcome their own mountains of difficulties, they are highly qualified to guide you on your own journey to strong mental health using the methods they have learned, used, and taught over the last 12 years.
what's unique about this course?
This method is not therapy, although many have called it "therapeutic." Most online therapies charge per session or per unit of time. Our course gives you "hands on" activities to help you uncover strengths and make changes in your own head. You can use these exercises throughout the rest of your life.
As many of you know, we have been working on our book about resilience for more than three years. Since the first of the year, we’ve been living out of a suitcase because we have not been allowed to go home to Beijing and have no other home.
It has been quite a journey for us since February 2nd when we arrived on U.S. soil. This whole experience has allowed us an opportunity to test the principles in our book. We have also been the recipients of miraculous blessings as we’ve found beautiful and fitting accommodations to work on an online course entitled: “Build Resilience in a Turbulent World.” The first modules of this course should be available within the next few weeks.
Now, however, we are more than pleased to announce pre-sales of our book on Amazon.com until May 5th when the book will be delivered. It could come at no better time than this.
The coming online courses take a different approach and walk you step-by-step through some healing and strengthening exercises focused on mental health.
Whether our audience decides to read about effective resilience principles or do mental health exercises for resilience, we are excited to finally get these things out to the world. It has been difficult for us to see so much frustration, anxiety, and depression around us while we are literally sitting on some effective answers as we prepare to launch. We’ve been working so hard in the last couple of months that one day we’ll remember our quarantine period as the time we didn’t slow down.
Life can often seem routine: wake up at a usual time, shower, dress, eat breakfast, and go to work. For us, the routine suddenly shifted as we fought to maintain control of our freedoms when Chinese authorities, fearful of a new virus, started implementing unprecedented travel restrictions and quarantines, essentially isolating more than 40 million people.
Ironically, we just completed our book about resilience when we decided to celebrate and blow off steam by traveling from our home in Beijing to scenic and historic sites within China and around southeast Asia in January, 2020. But where should we go? We thought of visiting our friends, the Westergards, who had recently moved to Wuhan. Wuhan is also a great location from which to explore the Yangtze River. We considered it carefully.
Ultimately, however, we chose to see the areas of Kunming, Guilin, Hong Kong, Macau, and Malaysia instead (a great decision, as we later learned). This decision was largely the result of a desire to travel with Matt and Judy Batschi, who planned to meet us in Kunming and leave us a week later in Macau. So off we went on an amazing adventure. All went well until we crossed into Macau, a former Portuguese colony. Walking the streets of old, European-style buildings, we started to notice long lines of intense, grim-faced people at various pharmacies. Wondering what was going on, we looked at news reports and discovered an announcement of a serious viral outbreak. Chinese New Year celebrations had been cancelled and travel restrictions were being activated.
Very quickly, we found ourselves unable to purchase face-masks. It was an odd feeling as we boarded buses and subways full of masked people, only to realize we were the only mask-less people aboard. As we traveled, we also recognized an escalation of travel restrictions and quarantine policies that seemed to follow us. We saw announcements about school delays throughout China. We saw proclamations of extensive quarantine efforts, including inhabitants of various cities totaling more than 40 million people! This has never happened anywhere in the world.
The airport in Macau required all passengers to be screened for fevers. We flew to Malaysia, but it seemed we were just ahead of efforts to close traffic from the China area into other Asian countries. How quickly would the question, “Have you been in China?” turn into a refusal allow entry? We were glad we made it to Penang, Malaysia. However, just as soon as we arrived, we noticed announcements of virus cases in Malaysia. One hotel in Malaysia was also screening everyone with thermometers.
Soon we were contacted via Wechat by our school in Beijing. We were told that upon our return to Beijing, because we had left China, we would be placed in separate quarantine facilities for two weeks, which meant we would not be together. Meanwhile, even in Malaysia we were to report our daily activities, temperature and health status to Foreign Ministry authorities.
The Malaysian people were very friendly, but concerned with anyone coming from China. Laraine wore a T-shirt with Chinese characters on it. We were told by one woman that we should probably not wear those kinds of things. Laraine had a blouse made by a tailor in her shop in our hotel. As we entered the second time, the woman (knowing we had come from China), pulled her mask tightly across her face before we could get close to her.
Meanwhile, border security was intensifying and quarantine policies were tightening. Weighing our options, we decided to go back to the U.S. even though we no longer maintain a home there, nor could we access our computers, clothes, Chinese bank accounts, and other valuables.
But would the U.S. let us in? We seemed to be always a step ahead of quarantine, and our luck held out as we crossed into the U.S. on Sunday, February 2nd, exactly 14 days from the day of our departure from Chinese soil. This was important because the incubation period of the virus was determined to be 14 days. Any sooner and new U.S. restrictions would have placed us in quarantine on U.S. soil. Even so, as we entered the U.S., our blessed 14 day buffer was in doubt because of a time zone difference. But we did make it through ok.
As mentioned above, we had just authored a book entitled, “Threads of Resilience: How to Have Joy in a Turbulent World” (not yet in print, but coming in late February or March 2020). Many times during our “vacation,” we said to each other, “What do we do now?” The situation was changing so quickly, it was hard to formulate a plan. Our experience in Asia gave us a chance to test the advice in our book. Here are the main points:
Develop Gratitude. When life throws you “curve balls,” re-consider what is going well for you. We had each other. We had good health, with good immune systems. We had friends and family pulling for us.
Pass the Gratitude Forward. While it was important for us to feel gratitude, it was just as important to spread that gratitude around. Fellow teachers, friends, and school administrators were doing their best to cope with the changing policies and conditions. We expressed our gratitude for the efforts of others.
Commit to Serve Others. Some of our dearest friends were people who did NOT have a spouse or family to turn to. Our Chinese friends were fearful and discouraged, with no escape options. We communicated our love and encouragement to those who were not doing well. This uplifted them and made us feel needed.
Value Relationships. While the sands were shifting under our feet, we spent time with another couple that was going through the same thing. Our week in Malaysia with Randy and Jana Ewing was something we’ll never forget. Had it not been for them, I think we would have dwelled too much on problems that couldn’t be solved. Instead, we simply enjoyed their friendship and camaraderie. It made us feel stronger to make critical decisions about what to do.
Find the Humor. Laughter is truly a gift, especially during difficult times. We spent a lot of time laughing at our situation and life itself as we carefully picked through our options. We will never forget the humorous singing Malaysian taxi driver, who insisted on leading us in songs from the 70’s. We spent a week in laughter when it could have been tears as we tried to pick up the pieces of our plans from the impact of the spreading pandemic.
Rely on Your Higher Power. Whatever you believe, it is important to be in touch with your higher power during difficult times. We are Christians, and found strength through prayer.
We are now safely back in the United States until the corona virus in China is under control. We have now been told to prepare online courses for our students, as it may be some time before we can return to Beijing.
Our dear friends, Ruth-Ann and Mike Martin from South Africa, taught at CFAU with us until this year. Since we were tired of American English and craved linguistic chaos, especially when talking about food, we decided to visit them at XISU (Xi’an International Studies University) in Xi’an (pronounced She-an). What an incredible trip! We went with other dear friends, Kent and Ruth Demke (I know, we are aware that 33.3% of our group shares the name “Ruth”). The Demkes have been serving as humanitarian missionaries with LDS Charities in China and are nearly ready to return home.
We highly recommend the hotel where we stayed: Eastern House Boutique Hotel in Xian. It was probably one of the only 10.0 (Hotels.com)-rated hotels we’ve ever been to. It was also very inexpensive.
Our 5+ hour high-speed train ride from Beijing was pleasant, especially since we got to share the time with the Demkes. They are such an inspiring, faithful couple who have chosen to serve despite physical difficulties. Ruth is fond of saying, “If I can serve a mission, ANYONE can serve a mission.” The Demkes have traveled extensively throughout China, working with professionals, NGOs, and people in remote areas of China who need wheelchairs. As they tell of their experiences with grateful, Chinese people who have had such difficult lives, it is often hard for them to talk through the tears.
We had been to Xi’an twice before, and thought we knew the town pretty well. We were amazed at the sights, sounds, smells and tastes that we had never experienced.
We hope you enjoy the pictures below.
Some final thoughts: The Martins were great hosts, as we vacated our hotel room and spent one night with them on an air mattress. They even sent us away with a bag of snacks and goodies for the train. What a great experience! When we returned to Beijing it was in the middle of a giant snowstorm, with several inches accumulating on the roads. This is highly unusual for Beijing.
You don’t have to be in China for very long before you learn that dumplings are something everyone in China loves and there’s an art to making them. Every year around Christmas time is also the lunar solstice that means you are supposed to eat dumplings that day to bring prosperity for the coming year.
The staff and teachers are invited to the cafeteria to make hundreds of dumplings and then they cook them for lunch. The president of the university always pays a visit to say hello. Laraine had the privilege of visiting with him for a few minutes and have her picture with him. The students then put on a New Years program. Our very own Judy Batschi, a fellow BYU china teacher, performed a solo during the program.
There was also a Relief Society class to learn how to make dumplings. So everything is dumplings for a few weeks.
For the third year now, Laraine has taken the opportunity to have her students enjoy the experience of gratitude. She teaches them about the importance of gratitude in our life and how powerful it is to bless others lives. Everyone at the school agrees the cleaning ladies have the hardest job. They spend every day of their lives cleaning the bathrooms which are not the nicest smelling. The students are given little hearts and they then write a thank you note to the women. They enjoy taping the hearts to the work room next to the bathroom. The cool thing is these hearts stay up the whole year. One student said she had come to class feeling really down but after the activity she was feeling much better and realized how good it feels to express gratitude.
We also had the chance to enjoy Thanksgiving with a big feast of traditional food and even had the chance to invite Monica (a young girl Laraine tutors) and her mom Liu Ying to join us. On top of all that, we got a visit from Jeremy. He came from the U.S. to record our audiobook, and of course to spend time with us on Thanksgiving.
It is a great privilege to visit with teachers from other universities, also in the BYU Kennedy Center’s “China Teachers Program.” We visited a very quaint ancient city just a few hours train ride from Beijing. PingYao has a wall around its ancient town, and very fun architecture.
In addition, we saw the Great Wall from a new vantage point–Mutianyu, which is a very popular stop.
One of the university administrators asked us to “help out” at her daughter’s elementary school every month. They want us to share our “drama expertise” with the school’s drama class.
At this point you might ask yourself if Chuck and Laraine have much experience with drama. The answer is NO. But because we are Americans and Hollywood is in America, there is an assumption that we all must surely know how to act. Fortunately, we have drafted our fellow teacher, Judy Batschi, who DOES have drama experience to join us. We had a great experience our first time with the class.
Since we DO have experience with emotional literacy, we used that experience to help students learn how to show more emotion in their acting.
With just 24-hour notice, we were asked to be available for an interview by Beijing International Radio’s “Touch Beijing” program. When we arrived, we weren’t sure exactly what they wanted to discuss with us, but it was obvious this wasn’t any ordinary radio station.
Once we got past the armed soldier at the front door (we had to wait for someone to deliver a pass to us), we were escorted to a fairly massive broadcasting area. Apparently, there are about a dozen radio frequencies being broadcast from that location, and that didn’t include all the TV stations.
Once we realized the hosts had read this blog page and checked out my LinkedIn page, they were prepared to discuss leadership development with us. We were very impressed by the host and co-host’s professionalism and friendliness. They made it easy to get past our jitters.